Rejection
Rejection You might have come vis-à-vis with situations when someone does the exact opposite of what you’re expecting them to do or when you are excluded altogether from your friend’s plan. Yes, I’m talking about rejections which is almost an inevitable aspect of our lives. It’s no surprise that it hurts to be abandoned and often the pain might have made you glum for days. The reason why rejections hurt so much is connected with our evolution. According to Lori Gottlieb, a psychotherapist back when our ancestors used to live by hunting in groups, abandonment meant a certain death by separation from the herd. Our brain is wired to take rejections as something that jeopardizes our survival. Besides evolution, our brain’s response to rejection also depends upon how we are brought up as an infant and the ways by which we connect with other people. Infants who had a healthy interaction with their caregivers usually socialize in a secure fashion and regard themselves lovable and worthy. ...