The Loner

The loner

Loner–A person who avoids company or assistance of others, the dictionary defines. I’m sure most of us can relate to as we read, but how much of a loner are you? Well, I’m a loner too but I believe I’m a little less when I’m around few people, the number that gets decreasing as life goes on. Maybe the loners are an introvert but quite amazingly expressive around a few people. I personally dislike being called a loner for I believe every individual is a loner at some time or the other and why wouldn’t they be? It’s a universal truth that everyone is born alone and dies alone so it should be cool if someone keep up to themselves. Having said that, I do not quite mean to say that all our relationships be it with a family, friends or someone special is obsolete–Of course, we can’t afford being a full time loner.

Often expressed in songs “We need someone to lean on” It should be quite evident. When we lean on someone, maybe we tend to forget very soon that nothing lasts forever or it is just that we hate being a loner so much that we expect our someone to never let go of us. Expectations hurt, this is as universal as two plus two equals four. But wouldn’t someone be very ideal if he/she stops expecting? Certainly they would, and ideal people are rare if not non-existent. Loneliness would never come into picture if people never got together, it’s the relationships and its aftermath that make someone feel lonely but being a social animal a man can never omit relationships altogether. It is often said that, you never can feel someone’s pain unless you have experienced one of theirs. Unless you have had a couple of good dates with loneliness you can never know what it feels like for someone who leans on you when you aren’t really there for them.

Although always worth trying for, it would be quite absurd to believe that we can be there for someone all the time nor is it wise enough to expect the same. We are all just prisoners here of our own divine, the divine being time and priorities for many of us. Some people believe that we must wish for pain if we are to be closer to God. Perhaps, it’s the human tendency to remember god only when one is somber. The somber part of life is the harsh truth, which we try to escape quite subconsciously as we simply live our routine life and consciously when we get a break–the process that makes us so monotonous and heedless as if we were high, high on life. And when we are high we tend to forget what the low was like, what the ground felt like before the flight. The loneliness for anyone is that ground, which is often forgotten of when we’re quite busy being happy on our escape from sadness. And maybe somewhere in the middle of our happiness we forget who was there for us when we were once a loner too. Of course, I don’t mean life is to lament and be sad about but isn’t it important to be grounded and refuel after a flight?

The world is huge, with many people but only a few know us, a few we know and even a few who are there for us. For some, the few could be only you. But hey, don’t you worry you are no less powerful to make a difference. Live, love, laugh and enjoy life but remember sometimes the ones who aren’t with you together to share this light moment. Let them know that you miss them. No distance would be so far if it is for the memory you have for someone, maybe it just needs to be expressed for some loner to see it, feel it and be friends with it and who knows if they’ll be less loner at least for a  while.

Back again after already a long time! I hope you’re doing great people. Have a good day J