Why modern relationships do not work?

Why modern relationships do not work?

I hope most of us have been in love at some point or the other in our lives and often we might have encountered questions such as ‘Are you in true love?’ from our friends. Time and again ‘true love’ has been used as a cliché to taunt us especially when we do not comply with them. But what actually is true love and how important is it for a relationship to become sustainable?

Before I dive in to give some insights about true love, let me talk about modern romantic relationships first. It is evident that the contemporary society provides a lot of distractions. Be it by means of a social function or an Instagram story people are going to cross paths with us all the time. It is beneficial in a sense you get a lot of chances to strike a conversation with somebody who you find attractive. However, there are equal possibilities of you getting allured with someone and vice versa even when you do not want to at first place.

The foundation of most of the latter-day relationships are based upon lust. A relationship might seem healthy or romantic for years with any or both of the partners prioritizing lust. However, a relationship won’t be sustainable in the longer run because lust is something that blinds us and one can never satiate its hunger. Let alone lust, there are other problems with present day us such as anger and greed which are catalysts for self-destruction.

Now some of you might argue that only a spiritually conscious person might be free of lust, anger or greed. I not only agree with you but also would like to add that even a spiritually conscious person might have tiny traces of these anomalies in them. But, there has to be a solution, isn’t it? The foremost step to resolution is to realize what our setbacks are and accept ourselves. Our weaknesses are so perfectly guised in us that only when a tragedy befalls, we get square with it. Hence, its appearance can be somewhat shocking to an individual and his/her partner but acceptance is the first step towards rectifying it.  

Extra marital affairs, casual hook ups are just a few examples of catastrophes in a relationship where lust is predominant. These debacles are enough to break any partner’s heart and cause an emotional trauma. If we are to expunge lust, it should be tackled at its onset because lust is like a quick sand whose gravity is almost indefinable after we step in.

Napoleon Hill articulately wrote in his best-seller, ‘Think and Grow Rich’ that repetition of affirmation of thoughts to the subconscious mind is the only way to develop faith. Likewise, addressing lust is only possible through faith in ourselves, which can be cultivated by reminding ourselves that it is wrong to be in control of lust.

Now, you might have guessed it already that for love to be true and sustainable, love should always come ahead of lust but that is not the end of the story. Taking into consideration the fact that nobody is perfect and also not forgetting that true love is built and not found, we should have some tolerance for shortcomings from our beloved. However, the guilty partner should be honest of his/her mistakes and seek for genuine forgiveness. True love is not always calm but at times the ability to pick each other up after a wrecking storm to believe in one other again, to survive many such storms together.

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