Understanding

Understanding

Are you ever dissatisfied to that extent that your chest feels like you can’t take it anymore? That rush inside I could feel you, when you try your best but still can’t make someone understand. Understanding, according to the dictionary is an ability to understand something or someone. Simple may this definition sound, but is actually quite difficult to understand. Understanding is more than just being with someone on the same page, relating to what the other person is trying to convey. Understanding is more like walking in the other person’s shoes and looking things from his/her perspective.  It is someone’s honest efforts to listen at least for a moment, leaving behind the predetermined understanding they have about the matter. Well, everyone has an ability to understand but do you really feel understood? I guess only a few of us do. But quite contrarily, the one to whom you are trying to explain yourself feels that they understand you because they think they’re simply listening to what you’re saying.

I’m not much into music but I listen to songs quite a lot. But, if you’d ask me to sing one I listened a few moments back I’d only stammer. I was listening to the song but I wasn’t really. Had I actually listened I’d at least be able to sing a few lines of course. Often, we take these forms of passive listening to understanding when the voices of predetermined thoughts inside our heads are still echoing loud. Understanding is to accept something, embrace it although it doesn’t align with what we had thought of it. It is an endeavor to know the truth, and a means for correction if one is wrong.

Understanding someone seems a difficult process. What makes it difficult is the problem in accepting the truth. We have a tendency to expect the truth to turn out to what we want. But our idea of truth doesn’t necessarily change it instead, troubles our peace of mind. Could you be at peace when someone you care for or yourself are misunderstood?  I guess not. But, quite unknowingly we’re expecting someone to be okay or understand us at all times even though we wouldn’t be okay if somebody else would do the same thing to us. And when someone doesn’t put up with us we don’t hold on for a sec not to judge them straight away, “Everyone’s the same” is what I get to hear best at these times. What’s yours? More often than not, we don’t take people are understanding enough because they don’t tolerate enough but isn’t not putting up an equal reaction?

Our willingness to accept the truth, and thus understand may involve one to get out of the box at times. It is not so easy to get out of that comfort zone is it? People often take holding the boundaries for not accepting the truth. But is the rigidness really worth it?  It is completely alright to be stiff if your values mean more than understanding someone. Understanding is one of major foundations for a happy and strong relationship of any kind. If you’re looking for connections as such isn’t a little resilience in accepting something that doesn’t blend with your values worth it?

How’s Quarantine days going for you? For me, you must have known how lazy have I been looking at my posts. This one’s for fueling some energy. I hope you have a good day. Live, Love laugh and enjoy! <3